Causes of Bullying
Unfortunately, to these days school bullying remains a big problem of relationship among children of all ages, which is very difficult for the teachers and psychologists to solve. Different psychological techniques, dividing children in specific groups that are supposed to separate the possible conflicting children, talking to parents and punishing the guilty still cannot stop the abuses. Each case of bullying has to be treated separately: only by eliminating the problems in each conflicting group it is possible to stop the conflict itself.
One of the most common causes of such behavior comes from the family. Parents may pay not enough attention to the child, which can cause cruel and violent behavior. If the child is allowed to do everything he or she wants without getting any punishment or explanation when it comes to bad behavior, it will soon be treated by the child as normal and possible in communication with other children and grown-ups.
Second most common problem, also coming from the family and raising of a child, is domestic violence. First of all, children tend to repeat the parents’ behavior whenever possible. Children see, children do. If a child suffers from cruel behavior in a family, he will also understand it as normal. More than that, if a child becomes a victim of domestic violence, he usually wants revenge for the pain caused to him. Being afraid of parents, he tried to act in the same way against people who are weaker than him, in this way “making up” for what was done to him.
Third and also very important reason of a cruel behavior with classmates is of a social cause. In this way a child, usually at first unconfident or with issues in family tries to show the others that he is not weaker or worse than them. He finds a much weaker subject to prove that he is strong enough. Moreover, bad behavior usually gets much more recognition than good deeds, causing even stronger wish to oppose one’s will and strength over others’.
Bullying may also have a lot of other causes that are not mentioned above. It is the job of teachers or school councils to find out about the each several case of bullying in the school and not just punish the child: it will not solve the problem, but will just make it worse. Each case shall be treated specifically, by trying to find out the reason that makes a child display such behavior and, if possibly, solve it.